Bobby's Sunday Summary

This week has been a lot like last week. More home improvement. But much more slowly this time. We are trying to do some of the finish work on the floor which is a bit slower then just laying down the large expanses. Robert is betting bigger and more desirous to walk. Every chance he gets he will grab our fingers and throw himself on to the floor to try and finger walk. He also has an amazing reach. He will tuck his feet under him and lean forward until he is almost on his knees to grab something. he he will go back to siting. This leads to a few face plants, but he is surprisingly good at knowing his boundaries.

Haircut Attempt

Our "Saturday Family Fun" activity last weekend was haircuts. Yeah, yeah, kinda lame for everyone except Alice who giggled and jumped and begged for her turn. This particular haircut won't make my top 20 list. It's a real hack job. Sharper scissors would help. A lot. And maybe some haircutting training.

Anyway, I see Robert's hair is hanging over the tops of his ears and think a spiffy little haircut will make him look even spiffier in his Sunday duds the next day. I plop the boy down, drape him in the gown, and make the first cut right above his left ear. A clump of light brown baby hair flutters to the floor and I regret it instantly. It's not just that the straight cut looks completely terrible. Terrible like...like...like his mom just took a pair of scissors and cut straight above his ear:

No, the part I most regret is seeing that little clump of baby hair on the floor.

What?! Since when am I the kind of person to get sentimental over haircuts?!

This boy's babyhood is different, somehow, from my experience with Alice (uh, duh Susan). I want him to grow up enough to make my life easier, but I don't want him to really grow up.

Despite this sudden longing to preserve Robert's fleeting babyhood, I still have to fix my (second) hack job. I take the clippers and run a 7/8ths inch length all over his head. It graduates the straight cut enough to hide a bit of my shame, but now there is even more baby hair on the floor and I'm getting more emotional by the second. His fuzzy halo remains, though severely crippled. Hope springs anew. It may grow back.

Changed my mind

After a terrible night like last night, I decided it's probably too early to put them together in one room. Alice woke up several times with a stuffy nose and Robert had one of his random wakings with lots of crying. I got very little rest between 10 and 1, but at least each of the kids only woke up with their own issues.

Decision made: I'm keeping them apart a little while longer.

(sigh of relief)

Note: I should clarify that I haven't actually put them in the same room yet. Each kid had a bad night on the same night, independent of the other kid. I can only imagine how much more frazzled I would feel if they had been in the same room waking each other up. I will probably consider putting them together in another 6 months.

Bobby's Sunday Summary

This week has been very long and stressful. We had a lot happen to the house.  We got new carpet throughout the entire house.  We had to move all  the furniture to the kitchen or the garage.  And it is not all back yet.  I also worked on the bathroom a bit more yesterday. Now it is all done but a little painting, on the base boards. And it actually looks fairly good.

Why put them together?

Now that our house has been emptied into the garage, I'm taking a new look at how we use our space. I'm rearranging the living room furniture and contemplating a new sleeping arrangement for the kids. I know, I know, I tried this before when Robert was a couple days old. It didn't work out then. Why do I have this crazy "need" to put my two kids in the same room for sleeping? Doesn't that just set me up for a world of co-wakings? And yet I have this evil desire to put them together...just to make them (and us) do it. It's not a very rational thought, so I'm using this blog entry today as a space to consider my options. I'd love to hear your thoughts on the matter, if you'd like to leave a comment or shoot me an email.

Why keeping them apart is attractive:

1. Different nap and quiet time schedules. In separate rooms, Alice can play as long and loudly as she likes while Robert sleeps away.  Her quiet time starts whenever it's convenient for me. He sleeps when he needs to. No need to delay quiet time because of a nap, or make the kid sleep in the living room because quiet time isn't quite over yet.
2. Different bed time expectations. After the bed time routine, Alice sits in her bed for some time looking at books and listening to music or stories on her CD player. She also keeps the light on all night. Robert nurses in the dark 'till drowsy, then goes into the crib with a pacifier and his blanket. Dark silence. Both traditions/expectations would have to change significantly to accommodate each other.
3. Each kid has space to call his/her own. This probably doesn't matter so much right now, but it's really important to me as they get older. 
4. We have the space. A three-bedroom house allows each child his/her own room, and it's not like we've found a different use for that room that suits us. Before Robert came along, his room was a storage room. Technically called an "office" because it contained our printer and internet router, but mostly it was a black hole where we threw things whenever company came. Oh yeah, it also stored a few hundred pounds of food storage. I guess that's kinda important.
5. They won't wake each other up in the middle of the night. Both kids "sleep through the night" (meaning they are physically capable of it and usually accomplishing 10-12 hours of continuous sleep a night), but between the periodically teething/sick/gassy infant and the periodically sick/thirsty/cold preschooler we tend to be awakened once a night. They don't tend to wake up one another, though, because they sleep in separate rooms with the doors closed.

Why putting them together is attractive:

1. I'm curious to see what will happen. Will they sleep better or worse? Will they play together better or worse?
2. Adds a new dimension to the sibling relationship.  I'm always thinking about their developing relationship. Yeah, it's the psychologist in me. I have a lot of control over their relationship now before Robert talks and moves and pesters her for fun. I have this crazy idea that if I foster a strong, positive relationship now, then the hard times to come won't be so hard. I'm trying to build a buffer. Am I trying to control something that's uncontrollable?
3. Alice likes company.
4. Robert likes company.
5. They like each other. I think they'll have fun.
6. Maybe we could use the "extra" room for something else. We don't get enough guests to dedicate an entire room year-round to them, but it would be nice to have a private-like public space that guests could stay in, like an office or play room. I really like to give guests a private space with a lockable door. 
7. Two kids in two rooms seems like a luxury. I don't pay for luxury goods, so why use my space so luxuriously? It seems like I'm being wasteful by giving the kids so much luxury. Spoiling them, maybe. 
8. And, well...I'm a little embarrassed to admit this in a public space...I've got a little obsessive-compulsive tendency to gather things and sort them. Some people hate putting toys away and folding laundry and emptying the dishwasher, but I kinda like sorting and gathering like items and tucking them away into their little places. A little collection of kids in one room seems so much neater and pleasing to me than spreading them out all over the house. 

So, there you have it. Those are the arguments in my head. Now here's the analysis. If I put the kids together and turn the extra room into a play room, then most of my concerns about combining them are alleviated: Alice's quiet time and Robert's naps can take place in separate places (Alice in the play room, Robert in the bedroom). Bed time is a little trickier. Maybe Alice can use wireless headphones and keep a small lamp on by her bed. That's something I should try, actually, before moving her bed anywhere.

I asked Alice about it and she loves the idea of sharing a room with Robert. She actually wanted to sleep in the crib with him, but I told her the crib was off-limits. She considered that for a while and decided that she's still interested. I wonder if she likes the sharing idea well enough to change her bed time habits.

How much is a pair of wireless headphones anyway...Amazon has them for $20. Let's have a chat with the girlie-girl.

If she's willing to try it, then I'm willing to make the move. Her bed is pretty easy to move and a pair of wireless headphones will be a useful addition to our technology stash, regardless. And I'm just plain curious to see what the heck will happen.